Published on: 20/06/23

In the immortal words of Ru Paul, “if you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” 

Picture this scene. You’re winding along a tree-lined avenue on a Forest Segway, wind in your face and sun on your skin. Cruising and content, you’re treating yourself to a solo date.   

Never heard of a solo date? Well, here’s everything you need to know. 

What is solo dating?  

A solo date is simply a type of date, the key difference, you’re on your own. It can be as elaborate or as simple as you like, the main thing is that you spend some quality time with Y-O-U.  

Whether you want to treat yourself to a chilled-out evening, a cinema trip, an adventure (that’s got our vote), a solo date is the chance for you to do something completely for yourself. There’s no need to people please, no awkwardness silences, no bill dances.  

The trend of solo dating has skyrocketed in popularity across all age groups, with some suggesting that it may be the most romantic act of all.  

The universal benefits of solo dating  

It’s funny but the word, “alone”, has almost become negative. Many people naturally associate being “alone”, with being “lonely”, but these are not the same thing. There are so many benefits to going out on a solo date and getting to know yourself – for both single and partnered people. 

What we know and feel about ourselves is not solely based on facts. Our perceptions are shaped by our experiences, environment and the things that we have been told about ourselves. Spending time solo allows us to be curious and take the time to learn more.  

Not only that, spending time alone, can help us to grow emotionally. Many dread the thought of eating dinner or going for a day out alone for fear of judgement from others. But why should we care what others think?  

Regularly treating yourself to a solo date (maybe around once a month) can help to develop your confidence and, in turn, your self-awareness and self-esteem. Developing a better understanding and appreciation of yourself can be great for your stress levels and overall happiness. On a solo date you can go wherever you want and do whatever you please without waiting on anyone or anything! 

Planning your perfect solo date

1. Do your research. If you're not sure what to do, take some time to research different activities in your area. There are plenty of options available, so you're sure to find something that interests you. 
2. Be open to new experiences. Don't be afraid to try something new on your solo date. This is a great opportunity to step outside of your comfort zone and explore new things. 
3. Don't be afraid to be yourself. When you're on a solo date, you can be whoever you want to be. There's no need to put on a front or pretend to be someone you're not. 
4. Have fun! Solo dating is supposed to be enjoyable. Relax, take your time, and appreciate the experience. 

Solo dating inspiration  

 So, you’re committed to treating yourself to a solo date. The only question now… what do you do? Well, here are some suggestions for all personality types and budgets:  

• Take yourself to the movies. We’re talking popcorn, snacks… the whole shebang. 
• Go for a walk and listen to a podcast – or better yet the environment around you. 
• Have a luxurious evening in, complete with a bath, a tasty tea, a good movie or whatever floats your boat.  
• Try something outside of the ordinary like a Go Ape Axe Throwing, Forest Segway, or high-ropes adventure. There are over 30 Go Ape locations across the UK, so there’s an adventure closer than you know! 

We spend so much time connected to each other: busy, distracted and wrapped up in other worlds, a solo date is the perfect way to re-centre yourself. Don’t worry if it doesn’t come easy straight away, self-love and awareness are complicated skills and take time to master. A solo date is simply a chance to treat yourself, you deserve it.